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Hey, how're you doing? Haven't spoken to you in a while. Happiness will always be a tricky thing. If I were to die today, I'd say I'd die a happy man, but that doesn't mean I've lived my entire life and have nothing left to live for. It would be a sad occasion for some of the people who care about me, but I feel like in general I'm a completely happy human being ^^

I can relate a lot to your info section. I'm socially awkward as well. Not as bad as I used to be but still. I'm just not good at talking to strangers face to face. lol.

That's exactly what I was going on about earlier: I can tell you how it works, but you probably won't be able to implement it. It's difficult for many people and to be honest, I don't know how I've achieved it. It's got something to do with an almost spiritual experience I had once, which fits with the term enlightenment. Really strange, because I wasn't pursuing it at all. I've just been lucky, I reckon

The second part is acceptence, which is an extremely broad one. This one's also important for relationships. Nobody's perfect, so you need to accept that some things can't be changed. If this makes you incapable of loving that person, you're better off telling the person sooner than later, but people tend to lie to themselves or think that's something that will gradually change when people love another enough. Sad fact: core principles, like morals and values do not change that much. So, if you want children and your partner doesn't, accept that or move on. It's really harsh, but it will spare you from unhappy anxious moments for a long time while you're trying to convince them of something they don't want. Acceptence also counts for the following: accept peoples intentions for their actions. Only a few people in your life will actively be trying to make your day suck. For others, this isn't intended. When somebody hurts you (which has often to do with intention), think of reasons why they might do that. Often you'll find that they chose themselves above you (which is very understandable) or they didn't know the severity of the situation and the harm it did to you. Therefore, it is hard to be angry with them, because you know they didn't mean to harm you and if they found out they had harmed you, they'd even be sad or feel guilty. (Removing anger in your life leads to more possibilities for happiness)

Yeah, I just felt like I needed to ask, because you can hardly go all-in without consent, can you? I'll give you the first part of my formula for happiness. It sounds really sad, but you'll have to think about it a bit in order to understand the repercussions. Lower your expectations. If you expect nothing from nobody, you will not be disappointed. This sounds really easy, but try going one they without expecting anything and you'll find how hard it is. People expect too much, which is reinforced by the internet. When I ask people how they are doing, they often reply wth "Great!" or something similar. This creates the expectation that everything should always be great, but that's simply impossible. Therefore, the person notices that he's lying, which causes a feeling of depression coming into your life ("Why isn't everything great?"). Whereas if you don't expect anything, people might surprise you. For example when you're having a hard time with something and you expect to have to solve the problem yourself, somebody might walk up to you and help you out. This is better than expectation, so it makes you happy. If it was according to your expectations, your expectations were met, which hardly feels like a cause for celebration. So, that entire story was the first part of my theory of happiness

That makes you a good girl ^^ The longer you wait the more the tension builds. Still, I always deliver on my promise ~.^ Are you ready for it?

Sorry, not today. I'm actually really freaking tired of todays philosophy class and I might get back to you later, but probably not before tomorrow (which might still be today to you). Funny thing is that my teacher confirmed my theory of happiness, even though he phrased it more like 'the theory of morbid depression' (he changed the variables the other way around Nappy, I get that you might need a flashlight, but I'm more old-fashioned. I'll just get myself a sweet gf ~.^