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The Use of Touch

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Honestly, I don't know. Each girl I have been with has been different. Some of them would have wanted a kiss on the first or second date. Some would want to keep it at hugs, and others wouldn't want any direct contact like that.

You should probably just try to be open and be yourself. It's difficult to know what another person wants and in theory you could just ask them, but there are two problems with that. First, some women just don't like it. They don't want a guy to ask permission and second, some women will lie about what they want. I have personally experienced this.

So in the end, you should just be yourself. If you want to hug a girl and she doesn't seem like she's gonna hate it, then go for it. Even if she does, well then go find someone who won't.

Nov 12, 17 at 10:30am

Hell, if a guy tries to touch me on a first date, i will chop his hand off.

Nov 14, 17 at 6:47am
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Nov 14, 17 at 8:23am

Smart thinking, Chocopyro! I like the hug invite idea since it puts on a little show, makes you memorable if nothing else :)

Nov 15, 17 at 2:24pm

i mean, youll need to be good at reading body language

maybe a touch of the arm quickly, brushing of the hands and see how they react

idk, i think unless its going really well a hug might be too much on the first or second date to me personally, but im not very touchy when it comes to normies

it probz sounds silly but i think asking permission before a hug or kiss on the cheek is best

Nov 15, 17 at 4:12pm

@Lamby your right but most of the time for a guy just meeting someone then a first date, for a guy to ask for a hug Or kiss on cheek might seem weird or show a sign of desperation, (unmanly) to most girls but their are a few that might not mind.

Nov 15, 17 at 5:01pm


I might ask if I could take your hand between thumb and forefinger, but somehow I think I would get a foot instead, lol. Back of hands is a great idea for a target area though, fits well with giving a courtly impression.

Nov 16, 17 at 10:48am

Well, you see. If you don't make a move then.. then you can do no wrong.
Also the word target is a bit much.

Nov 16, 17 at 1:49pm
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