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How to deal with bigoted evangelical parent

gudmoore
Start by being glad you even have a parent that loves you. Many don't. Then you can start feeling terrible for coming onto an internet forum to talk shit about your own parents. You literally just said that you can't function by yourself. So who takes care of you, your parents? At 19? Those, "bigoted, racist, homophobic, transphobic, evangelical, knuckle-dragging, hicks" you so warmly referred to? The ones who put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food in your stomach? Seriously, reading this thread just made me fucking sick to my stomach. Grow the hell up, people have differing opinions. If you're getting triggered by a few crass remarks, you will not survive alone in this world. Moving out would be a death sentence for you, I highly recommend against it.
coffeelink
Be respectful towards your parents regardless of what comes: Remember that they did feed, Clothe and keep a roof over your head, Regardless of what they believe; they still deserve respect. My father can be bigoted and stubborn, but i still respect him because of what he did for me and for the fact that he didn't leave even though he would have to spend his life with a toxic woman. Re-think this over. You're never going to agree with anybody on everything and you are certainly not going to like everything that they say or do, but just because you don't agree or like someone: does not justify disrespect or slander. Everyone deserves a medium of respect, but unless theu actually did something personally to you. i wouldn't be so quick to disown my own family... I doubt they disowned you, so don't disown them. Then again i'm tired and blabbing out of my barely conscious ass.
no44prometheus
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gudmoore
Emotionally abusive? Under constant threat? Your father is a, "deadbeat dickhead" while you're being taken care of at 19? This is why I'm recommending against moving out. You are a frail, special little snowflake. You'll melt in a second out in the real world. Despite everything you've said, despite what you've labeled yourself... You're still living with them, correct? That means they didn't kick you out on your ass for your religious views or sexual orientation. Yet, here you are making a massive scene on the internet. Talking about how you need to get out and can't spend another moment with them while calling them all sorts of obscenities. There are parents who kick their kids out of the house for being gay, hell, there are some who kick them out at 18 just to toughen them up. You're the bigot here. Massively. Or did you think you could only be a bigot towards a minority group? You are completely intolerant of your parents' opinion. To the point where you call them every name in the book, and can't stand to be around them. The textbook definition of a bigot. My recommendation is to go tell your parents you love them and hug them while you still have that opportunity. Trust me when I say you'll regret cutting your connection to your parents over a difference in opinion when you were only 19, but by then it will be too late. And I wouldn't wish that position on anyone.
no44prometheus
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gudmoore
Then why did you refer to him as if he was just there sitting around being a deadbeat? In fact, this makes you look like even worse of a person. Did I ask about rent? No. You did not pay rent and buy your own food when you were 12. Your mother fed, clothed and put a roof over your head, without the help of your father. That's even harder. So that has to mean she's that, "bigoted, racist, homophobic, transphobic, evangelical, knuckle-dragging, hick," you were talking about. That's a wonderful way to talk about your mother, whom now I'm guessing raised you herself. Yes, I am going to be a, "jerkass" when I see an entitled brat talk some outrageous shit like this about his own parents. On a public forum no less, have you no shame? Seriously man, grow up. I gave you my advice, not all advice is sunshine and rainbows: moving out is a death sentence, you still have a lot of maturing to do.
no44prometheus
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gudmoore
It sounds to me like you don't want advice. You want a pity party, and I'm not going to give you one. Goodbye.
xueli
Well you only really have two options and you've sorta shot down both so you're kinda static there. I don't know if you'll get much help just because anything anyone can tell you will only be one of two things: get better at taking it or move out. You can't change other people, you only have control over yourself and with that you can either change your reaction to your parents or you can remove yourself from being around them. Ultimately you'll have to make a choice and no one can really help you with that. Them's the breaks, so to speak. It's not the most sympathetic advice, I'll admit, but it's the only thing I've got and honestly, it's what I'd tell myself if I was in a similar situation.
no44prometheus
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