Attraction.

You know what, that's a good question; Honestly i don't find alot of things attractive for some reason, Guess i just haven't found what i like yet. or i have to learn to trust people more. Either way- lately... i spen't most of my time working and studying, Oddly enough. Women have suddenly been my last priority, which is kinda a contradiction on my part; Since i'm on this site, i don't know why i joined this site. Hoping i'll get lucky and find something that interests me?

I went to a day retreat/training of sorts at work today that focuses on discovering the traits of others to build better relationships. I have done this before but even without it I knew I was an introvert. For one portion we grouped into levels of extrovert/introvery and I was one of 2 that was a level 10 introvert. I noticed the people I gravitate towards tend to be extroverted or at least in the middle ground. With that I realized being around extroverts makes me happy. I love intelligence, it's high on my list, but I love a sense of humor and personality. The thought of being with someone like myself kinda depressed me lol. Another fun fact, the one other person who was a level 10 introvert works in my office and happens to watch anime too. 8D I haven't talked to him before today but at least now when I see him I can cut him the Otaku smile.

Never been in love, so i have no idea. I assume I'm attracted to confident, independent folks who have a mind and life of their own and want me for me and not to complete their depiction of their life but who knows.. The future will show me.

Other than physical features? To be perfectly honest I find feminine traits very attractive. I know we live in a world now where liking women who are feminine can easily get you labeled a sexist pig or something of that nature, but people can't help what they like. Tomboys/masculine women do absolute nothing for me. For me talking to women like that is almost like talking to a guy. What many consider to be normal these days I find rather boring and uninteresting. Funny thing is guys tend to find those type of women annoying and would rather have someone who's 'like one of the guys'. When I was younger I didn't really know what I wanted, but after really thinking about it I can confidently say what it is I like.

When it comes to chemical attraction it is somewhat different for men and women biologically speaking. Science is finding all kinds of new interesting things out as of late as we can dig into the brain deeper. Typically men are more more responsive to visual/touch stimuli or physical and social values. Certainly they have to be cute and enticing to me in some way to catch my eye long enough for my brain to decide if I am attracted to them sufficiently to consider a relationship in any form. Looks aside I would look for the following: Do they appear to have a playful and/or pleasant demeanor? Do they display passion, intelligence, creativity? Do they seem like a happy person? fun? interesting or unique? Do they act rationally in a responsible and respectable manner? Do they have 'character'? How durable is it? Do they appear in good healthfulness? Do they appear capable of intimacy and maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships with people around them? aka. be genuine, open, and not tend to treat others like shit. The higher the total match score the more serious the relationship and the effort/desire to pursue it.

Intellegince is a key in most of your preferences. Are you not surrounded by intelligent people? Or do you want a challege? ~T

"What attracts you to others other than physical features?" - personality, goals & sociability to name a few. "How do you know what you find attractive is what you like?" - a person attractive traits are associated with our own opinions of what we think we like. You only know what you like after experiencing it. "Have you ever changed your preferences?" - Preferences change over time and due to experience. For example when I was a teenager what I found attractive is totally different to what I find attractive now.