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How do you cope with being cheated on?

nestlepanic
It was a long distance relationship with its complications, but enough love to conquer it all-- well, I thought there was enough. Until, just recently, he told me that he cheated on me. My reaction was shock, hurt, wanting to die because the pain I felt was absolutely terrible.. I was miserable, pathetic, and weak. But, during all that, I wanted him back, I still loved him, well, at least I thought I did. We got back together, and it only lasted two days until he cheated on me once more, with the same girl. When him and I spoke, I deflated, became emotionless, and didn't give a damn whether he wanted me to stay with him, forgive him, and or wait for him until these feelings he had for the other girl stopped. He said he loved me, I could not say the same, my love have vanished like the wind. I told him goodbye, and ever since then, I've been having a hard time copping with this feeling of being hollow, empty, and spiraling down into my own depression. Of course I have friends, they have been helping me little by little, but in the end, the feeling isn't leaving. Have you ever been cheated on? If so, how did you get past the pain? If you haven't been cheated on, how would you react if you did?
kc_watz
Yeah, I fell in love in close distance relationship. Came close to preposing (I'm dumb) But then she cheated and was too scared to tell me so she told me through text. Pretty f#cked up. My soltion was to be around people that care about me.. Well I also drank like a sailor and smoked. But I can't reccomend that. Oh and I cried soo much don't be afraid to let it out. Bottling it up is bad, mkay?
usagimodoki
I haven't been cheated on but I've been told that I wasn't as good as other girls. Stupidly enough, I stayed with the guy for another year before dumping him. My reaction would all depend on how much trust I put into this person, how we've connected in the past, and if I knew beforehand if we were falling apart from each other. I wouldn't be shocked if I felt the relationship was failing but I'd probably still be hurt. Now, if I thought I really clicked with the guy then I'd feel like shit. Its weird how the one's who've done no wrong feel the worst. The feeling won't instantly go away but you will feel better at some point. Just know if he would cheat, say sorry then cheat again within two days,...two,he doesn't deserve you.
usagimodoki
Forgot to add in stuff about coping I agree with kc, cry as much as you need to. And try to focus on the positives in your life, it'll help you forget faster.
vampire_neko
My first serious relationship, the one I lost my virginity to, she cheated on me with a mutual friend. I took her back a week later but not long after she broke up with me for the guy she cheated on me with. Lots of other drama too that I won't go into. I cried myself to sleep for months...
whitewolf_3
@OP: Yes, I've been cheated on and went through similar phases as you did. I coped by understanding the emotions that I was experiencing, thanking my ex for the happy moments, and accepting the fact that the relationship with her didn't work. At that point, I moved on. Easier said than done.
altair88
Most people tend to cry which is understandable and I think it is a good coping mechanism. Having some close friends around can also help one cope. Though honestly they best way to cope in my opinion is to have a nice long conversations with yourself. It doesn't need to be long and it doesn't need to be about the break up, but in time you'll realize that he or she wasn't for you. Another Good way to cope with being cheated on is Boxing. Just tape the persons face to a heavy bag and let your fist release your emotions.
namaniiamani
Got cheated on but don't care to explain the details. Long story short, You might keep grudges along the way but that's ok. Everyone has their way of trying to get over things but sometimes it leaves scars that never heal. I conquered the pain by having my three very close friends basically or they intended, Completely destroy what little self esteem she had left. It felt good, It felt good. Word to the wise. Never take a cheater back no matter how long the relationship is. Just remember you wanted a relationship, Not hell in a haystack.
ritsuioko23
The same thing happened to me IRL, but the girl told me she wanted to break up out of the blue. I was confused as hell, then several months down the road she told me she lied, and had actually cheated with some guy.... That put me off from relationships for a while :(
jikokun
Story of my life. Being cheated on sucks, unfortunately you build a callous for it.
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