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2018, Do you think online relationships can work out?

hakutaku
At least, an online relationship isn't something for you currently, John.
hakutaku
In my opinion, online relationships/long-distance relationships will work out mainly between two secure individuals who believe they are best matches to each other and willing to wait + have a blueprint for the future...
yamadaed
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shadowduty7
I'll just paste most of what I said before on another post in RA that asked more or less the same thing while adding some stuff I've learned so it isn't ENTIRELY the same. Long distance relationships are typically meant for adults that are financially responsible. Otherwise, you're just basing the relationship on hopes and dreams, rather than being realistic. If anyone who isn't financially stable and/or is underage thinks that they and the person they're with is unique, and that both of you truly not only have the immense amount of loyalty, determination, and integrity needed to be with each other to somehow get past 600-6000 miles and no money, yet are also confidently willing to work towards all the obstacles of being together, making your life very very VERY flexible to make such a thing happen......go for it, and you better be prepared.....but a VERY large portion of these relationships just stay dreams due to young, clingy, or arrogant people actually finding someone (whether they're actually compatible with you or not), without taking in consideration or action as to "how" they can be with them....so instead, they're left with how they simply "want" to be with them, thinking that that's enough....thinking that everything will somehow change one day....and that's not even considering how they choose to trust said person after a measly month or two....yet, in my experience, people who get into long-distance relationships confuse love with lust A LOT....then, fast-forward a few months or even a measly few weeks, and it'll slowly decay when one or both of them realize they're in over their heads. Patience, Integrity, a healthy amount of self-esteem/self-love, and Financial Responsibility are simply the prerequisites required to be with someone in a LDR.....some amount of loyalty and naivety is needed as well..... All in all....online relationships CAN work if you're mature, dedicated, and financially independent/stable...its not really for anyone else....that is, unless you meet someone with the same state....but even then, its not easy. There's just so damn many teens and young adults that keep looking for someone, both new and old members, all the while not even considering how to accomplish this or thinking whether they can, usually all the while falling deeper for each other...its sad to see so many young people with a lack of self-esteem either desperately want to be loved and/or don't know exactly what love is yet, be so content to get together with someone they've barely known for less than a month or two just because they're able to somewhat talk to each other, they provide a little emotional reciprocity, and its a little fun....love takes effort, and effort is more than RPing with someone, appreciating them, and saying you love them, all the while wishing for what you can do with them, constantly repeating what you're gonna do to be with them rather than what you ARE doing to be with them...online dating....is NOT for a lot of the people on this site....eh, but, how else are people gonna learn from mistakes if they don't make them to begin with. Its all a learning experience. Its better to be try, fail, and learn something rather than grow to be cynical, never moving forward from past break-ups, and grow to believe love/dating in general is stupid.
cac
Yes but it's very hard.
leo_ss
Short answer? They have a 100% failure rate. Long answer. Every singular Long Distance relationship will end, But there are two ways for this to happen, Naturally like a break up, Or for it to become a normal relationship and continue. It takes a large amount of effort, and they Are harder than normal relationships. For it to work both of you need to be fully committed on making it work, otherwise it will just fade or end poorly. The best way to make one work is to have a plan, Whether it's your or the other moving, set a date for it, and stick to it. Otherwise it's too easy to just procrastinate and the end of the relationship is only a matter of time. You also need even more trust, because if you can't trust them to keep it in their pants, or go after another person, than you'll be in constant fear and stress, which is no way to live at all, and it will affect the relationship poorly as well. Relationships are tough in general, but being a thousand miles makes it even harder. By far, Personally I'd recommend just going for someone close by, even if it's a twenty minute or hour drive, it's far better than anything where you have to wait months to visit one another, and far easier to move.
vezax
^its definitely not 100% failure rate.. as i have seen LDR(long distance relo) working out both irl and here on MO, but yes i agree that it is very difficult compared to SDR and would have a high failure rate too.. So overall even i dont consider LDR worth the shot, anyone who is answering this question and is in a LDR would definitely be biased about it. That said if both parties are secure and well off, and is able to meet up regularly after an initial time investment then everything is sorted.
leo_ss
Laughing, I think you ignored the first few sentences in my second paragraph."Every singular Long Distance relationship will end, But there are two ways for this to happen, Naturally like a break up, Or for it to become a normal relationship and continue." It's a 100% to end because it will end up becoming a normal relationship, and stop being a LDR, if it does not outright fail. Otherwise, yeah, they are destined to fail at some point.
vezax
^i didnt ignore that, but LDR turning into SDR is not a failure XD Its a 100% to end yes! but not 100% to fail.
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