Is It Going to Work Out?

Well I don't know much about relationships. If you're doing what you've been doing all the time yet he apparently changed and toned down, you'll need to ask him - maybe something is concerning him, idk. Reaffirm your relationship's goal.

The best thing to do is talk face to face about it and ask him directly. The reason some guys stop putting in effort after a while is because they already have you and don't feel the need to keep trying to "wow" you into liking them (I could be wrong on this, but I'm just speaking from experience). Ask him what he wants and make sure to tell him what you want. No hinting at anything, because people don't always notice them so just be straight forward and honest. I hope that helps and you two can figure something out for the better. ♥

Communication is the bedrock of every good relationship. If there's no communication, there's no relationship. If you have issues, you've got to talk about them, otherwise you just build up frustration and feelings of resentment. Sometimes this is a self-imposed fear, where you think talking to them about it directly will only make the situation worse. Sometimes it's a rational fear because every time you try to approach them about something they run away from it. If the latter describes your man, I'm tempted to tell you to just move on, because this guy isn't mature enough for a relationship if he's the kind that tries to escape from every difficult conversation. However, if he does hear you out and makes efforts to improve himself for you, then I think it's worth sticking around to see if things can improve. If you haven't tried to talk to him about it yet, then that's your first step, but you have to discuss it in a straight-forward and honest way in order to make any progress. The other key is you have to be willing to listen to his feelings on the matter too, and try to understand where he's coming from. Hopefully you both can work it out. Good luck!

"I did mention I have spoken with him and he did promise to show his affection more. Should have been more clear." Ok, so what's the issue then? No one is going to make up your mind for you. Wait, see if things are how you want and go from there. You seem to want Hollywood romance ALL THE TIME, good luck with that. As serious as you seem to think this is, you ain't seen nothing yet. Relationships have a natural eb and flow, and sometimes that flow turns into a torrent. This seems some what petty in the grand scheme of things. I mean, you sound clingy and if he's not clingy, that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. But, some people do "need" to be codependent, it would seem. Would add more, but as with all good thoughts, I'm on the shitter and the time has come to leave once more.

I will say that I totally agree with ohnoes on the "wanting romance all the time" thing. It's fine at the beginning of the relationship when you're both feeling butterflies all the time and are super-worried about impressing each other and all that, but eventually you have to be able to get comfortable and regain some composure. That takes time, of course; but obviously the two of you have been together for a year now, so I would expect that to have died down by now. That doesn't mean you shouldn't still make time for each other, or do romantic things from time to time; but like he said, it's not always a sunshine and rainbows. There are times when your relationship will be tested and it's going to get HARD. I don't mean a little hard either, I mean "beaten and bruised to the point where you'll feel like you can barely stand" hard. If you love the person enough to push through those moments and accept them back into your life, THAT'S when you know you have REAL love. At any rate, based on what I'm hearing, it sounds like you've tried to talk to him and just need to wait and see what happens. If the situation improves to your satisfaction, then stick with it. If not, move on with your life and try to find what it is you want.

Thanks Shawnji

No prob, Bob. :3 I've been through a few of these things in my time. Being MaiOtaku's Resident Old Dude™ means I have lots of useful (highly subjective) knowledge to share. xD Also, I know what it's like to want someone to love you back as much as you love them, so I get where you're coming from too.

Been thru a few my self(Married now) and have a very good idea about exactly what you're "going thru" I don't give advice out of my ass -Rolls eyes-. I'll apologise if only a little for my crude humor. Shawnji, Pffft... Old dude? I got ya beat.