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Virtually impossible to find girls who like anime IRL?

kuroshiro_2573
You should think about your location as well, as not everywhere accepts details of other cultures. I am lucky enough to know a lot of people in my area who like anime, but it also helps that I live in an area that is highly diverse in culture and people.
ouma_adam
@ InfenalMonsoon No, because without a doubt, even if they do ask themselves the same thing, its far easier from a female perspective to find a partner with such interests. There's a way greater supply of men in the market with less demand, but far greater demand for females with such interests but lack of equal demographics in the market. Like others have said, just look at the amount of guys that will swarm a single female cosplayer at a con, its insane. Also not all of them are even their for the sake of meeting someone, they are just there to enjoy the event or hang out with friends making it all more difficult for the male to be an initiator. This is not a thread to sound bitter, don't misunderstand. It is more of a matter of observations, i think even trying the typical "join a club, bookstore etc." tips, its still inevitably a huge challenge for any guy within the anime or gaming community to find a partner who shares the same interests. To build off if a guy should make the first move thread, well the problem is even if you want to firstly there might not even be anyone to make a move on, and secondly even if you get the chance say at a con...well what about the other 5 guys that just asked some cosplayer for a picture and her number within the last 5 minutes, you'll probably be written off as just irrelevant no? So even when you do get the chance, its at the wrong time or wrong place. Which is why it seems virtually impossible to meet girls who like anime IRL, doesn't have to be romantic purposes, even just befriending them to go and cosplay as a group, its quite difficult. Its just a paradox, go to a con and you see tons of female fans and people already coupled up, any other environment nope not a chance you're gonna find them. Last year i joined the anime club on campus, it was plenty of fun but majority of the members were guys, and with the busy student life not everyone could even make it to every event. It just seems too good to be true. Even in being in a very diverse urban city with a few massive expos, people come from all over the city to attend these in high volume, but i'm talking outside of these events where you can actually develop something meaningful and get to know them, there's none to be found.
infernalmonsoon
I totally understand what you're getting at ouma. While it doesn't really bother me personally, I can see the merit behind that observation. I think it ultimately comes down to guys' natural instinct to court a female more than anything - most women into anime are either already taken, not interested or usually keep their hobby on the down low so it does often seem like there's WAY more males than females even if it's not really the case. Personally I feel guys have to stop putting so much of their time and energy in trying to date other anime loving girls and stop ignoring every other lovely girl out there who they'd probably have much better chances with and perhaps still a share other hobbies to enjoy. Heck it's definitely possible to get partner interested in other things you're into - it's surprisingly easy to get a girlfriend into gaming and anime if they're willing to give it a try and show them how fun it can be. But bless those girls that have to deal with that kind of thing though, if I was a girl and had to deal with that then I know damn well I'd be really frustrated, annoyed and completely disinterested in just about every guy who wants the same thing so you especially can't blame them when you put yourself in their shoes.
gundamu
lol, just b urself man. But in all seriousness, I second what InfernalMonsoon said. To be perfectly honest none of the girls I dated were super into anime, we just shared a common interest in geeky stuff in general so it wasn't hard to get them to accept or even indulge in anime with me. While I do agree it can be pretty disheartening to go to conventions and stuff hoping to find someone only to see nothing people coupled up or guys swarming around the the single ones.
momoichi
in my experience iv met and just seen more girls into anime than guys like, earlier this (whelp, not last year i guess) year i saw two girls with tokyo ghoul shirts on in walmart its a pretty 50/50 community
ouma_adam
It doesn't bother me per say, i'm just saying if the community is 50/50 which i'm sure it must be, there's just a huge disconnect when it actually comes to meeting those people especially as a guy getting close to a female. Getting someone interested into anime or gaming is definitely a fair compromise, and they don't have to like absolutely everything and anything you do at all, that might be troublesome. But, it would be nice to meet someone with those interests from the get-go. That way you don't come off as forcibly trying to change someone, or you might like them as a romantic partner but they might resent some interests like gaming or anime. Disheartening would be the right word to describe it all. @blissfullforce1818 That's good to hear, i'll be rooting for you man. As far as cosplaying goes, i've only literally cosplayed once and it definitely helped a bit, someone even came up to me and asked for a photo. You might be on to something.
ouma_adam
Lol mine was also a half way finished costume. It was just a last minute thing and not to mention i get embarassed easily, I was at anime north back in 2016. Didn't get a chance to go last year. I might go this year, no idea though what I should cosplay or if I even should since it can be so nerve wrecking. It would be probably a lot better to just book a hotel in the area. I couldn't imagine commuting in costume especially if it's hot out or a delicate costume.
frandly
just gotta keep looking :)
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