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Would you change for the one you love?

shinu
Undoubtedly I would change. Rather, it's a relationship that gives me the courage to change in the first place. It's not that I want to transform, but that I want to evolve and improve. At the very least, I just want life in this world to be a little nicer, and I think changing is a fairly good means to do it.
animekid
To an extent yes
yaasshat
To an extent, we all do. Have you ever met met a couple where the individuals don't have a common trait? (Rhetorical and a bit of an after thought of my first response.)
devo1
I would change for the one I love but she would have to change as well also I'm not giving up my love for Asia or anime either.
cero
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lsp
Sep 30, 17 at 12:49am
It all depends on what she is asking of me. If it is something that I believe that I should change then of course but if it is something that goes against my own values or just something that I feel like it does not need changing then she is going to have to explain why and give some compelling arguments to convince me. Relationships are about compromises. You need to strike that balance of making changes for the good of the relationship as well as setting your foot down so your partner isn't controlling every aspect of your life. Also if your partner wants you to change then they should be ready to change something about themselves as well. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
tobi150
No, not really. But I would improve myself for my own sake.
kameiya
It depends on what they want changed. If it's a bad habit or addiction than yeah. Perhaps a request to at least try something they enjoy. That's ok as long as it is legal and safe. if he wants me to change my physical appearance or\and my personality, who I am than no. That kind of change means they really are not in love with you. They are just looking for someone they can mold into their ideal mate. We are not clay to be shaped by others.
densetsu_no_baka
What Miss Cerealia said on page 1 sums many of my feelings on the matter up pretty well. As humans, we are fundamentally imperfect. In my case, I know that I'm not a perfect person, and I don't expect to find a person that lives up to my definition of perfection (see: Nepgear). If I actually *like* someone, it's because I like THEM because they are THEM, and I would expect them to like ME because I am ME, despite imperfections. I would not change what fundamentally makes me me for someone; however if we love each other, then I would of course want to strive to continuously become a better ME for them whether they ask me to or not so I can continue to make them even happier (especially if they don't). Reciprocally, I would not be with a person if I wanted them to change who they fundamentally are because then what I want isn't them, and I would expect them to genuinely *want* to put in the same effort I do for them. A saying I've seen a lot around here is "a relationship is about compromise". Personally, I don't like it because it implies that that's *all* a relationship is about and is objectively negative. A relationship is really "about" a lot of things, compromise is just one of them. I have a saying I feel says what they mean to say better: "a relationship is a two way street".
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