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How to deal with Depression

vanessa86
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chris_andres_dasilva
no matter how hard you try you cant turn a hoe into a house wife
thesailingteacup
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chocopyro
I don't see why you couldn't. Last I checked, there was no law about marrying garden tools, was there? Joking aside, Its not really your place to change people who don't ask you to. And trust me on this one. I tried to make an unhappy girl happy. All I ended up doing was getting sucked into a toxic relationship, where she relied on me as an insufficient emotional crutch to fill a void (left by a previous lover) that I could never fill. But in general, you gotta respect life goals. Like if a person isn't ready to settle down, or even thinks they are and figures out they aren't, then don't even try. Relationships aren't about control, they're about respect. That's as much for her as it is for you. If you are uncomfortable with an arrangement she has laid out for you, either leave, or get into a rational mindset and try to have an objective conversation with her without getting emotional. (That's harder than it sounds though. Like unless you're a sociopath, emotions creep into just about every action, thought, and word before you even realize it.)
chris_andres_dasilva
i get that but i dont know what i did wrong i made her feel special i bought her gift when i could afford them i missed important soccer matches to be with her put up with her shit, put with the fact she doesn't last long in bed , i put her above everything. and i end up losing her to an ugly McDonald's worker
chocopyro
It is unfortunate. In the end, sadly, acts of service do not equal entitlement. And trust me, I get the frustration. Its tough when you put more into a relationship than you will ever receive in return. It sucks when your sacrifices, impartial compromises, and investments aren't ever appreciated. Like seriously. And hell, even now, you still like her. If you didn't, it would hurt a lot less. But like you said, its out of your control. I can't begin to tell you where you went wrong, because I don't know. Hell, maybe you did nothing wrong. That would not be the first time that has ever happened. Just know that right now, the actions and words you permeate will reflect upon you for a long time to come. For example, (And this is an extreme example.) Girls aren't going to want to be with a guy who lit their Ex's new boyfriend on fire. And this is the age of social media, so shit like that spreads like wild fire. Everything you do now will have a lasting impact on your life for years to come. The way others will continue to see you will depend on who you show them. So stay frosty, figure out what you want, and be the best man you can be as you try to obtain that reality. You may get there, you may not. But its better to fail as a good man than succeed as a jackass that nobody really likes. Because a good man is going to have a more open ended future. Okay, so I hope all that vague jargon is helpful, because I gotta get some sleep now. Best of luck, bro. May the force be with you.
otakisherbert
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john_felix
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crossbones
Occupy your mind with something.
infernalmonsoon
Different things for different people - we all experience it at some point in our lives but often in wildly varying degrees. I see people suggesting what they should do to deal with it but it's really not as easy as saying "Do this and you'll feel better" because we're all unique and are often wired differently from each other - what makes us tick positively or negatively will be different amongst most people you meet and thus people deal with their varying levels of depression usually in very different ways. It's all about finding a number of coping mechanisms that work for you and help you get through the really rough times, something that gets your mind working, your body running, your imagination moving, etc - anything to take the attention away from those bad feelings and allows you to focus on the better things in life. For me, it's talking to people, watching funny videos, making silly gaming videos, writing (when I have the time and ideas for it) and going out to spend the day with a friend or two. Sure I've been really rough lately but it's important to keep trying and to find the right things to get you on your way.
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