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Would you date someone with a bad history/emotional background?

arc
I think as long as she is a functional human being than it isn't a problem for me. I've had my own dark past to deal with, but I got through it. I'd expect the girl I'm with to be capable of the same.
kairu_steve
If they're stable for a relationship then it wouldn't bea problem. Like if they're hurt over a previous relationship maybe I can help them. Make them feel loved again.
kairu_steve
We've all had problems or issues in our lives, so maybe we could relate. And that in turn could mean that we can help each other.
annakat
Those things don't define a person, they're simply components a person defines themselves despite. I wouldn't hold those things against someone. It's all about what they make of themselves, with or without those elements.
infernalmonsoon
I've dated plenty of girls who have had troubling pasts - and to put it simply, as long as they don't dwell on it too much and the issues aren't extreme to the point of driving me nuts then yes I would date them, no doubt.
whitewolf_3
@OP: Everybody has their issues. If both parties can accept each other's issues, then why not? Personally, it depends on the issue. Some people have issues that would lead me to a bad place.
aoageneral
This is a topic ive spent a good hour staring at. I am not entirely sure how to answer this except to say do your best to help her out when you can and to see if she is able to overcome the obstacles when needed. If you can be the one to help out and be the strengthened pillar and support beam? All the better. Ive had an experience otherwise where you are left wondering what could have been done. But then again, not everyone is capable of doing what most can.
xypho
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keiseki
What's done is done. If the person is living a healthy life in the present, then it's fine. Date away, enjoy yourselves! It's going to be tough to have to constantly deal with someone who likes to drag around a bag of problems, but that is fine, too -- IF you don't end up having to cover and fix those every single time "because that's how relationships work". Even if you're the type with a huge store of optimism and patience, negative vibes will eventually get under your skin. It's tiring, it's stressful, it can affect the both of you.
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