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The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
Very accurate, and I totally agree irl 18+ mixer type community events would be super cool to have especially because the closest thing to this rn is just going to a bar or club and those also coincidentally happen to be the two worst places to make good relationship decisions of any kind...
squirrelatemycookie @squirrelatemycookie
squirrelatemycookie @squirrelatemycookie
Another thing I've learned to add to this is many people I think have an unrealistic expectation of how easy actually meeting and building a connection to through the Internet actually is. This is not like developing a relationship with someone that lives in the same town as you and you could at least pass by them and say hello on a somewhat regular basis. You are limited to texting, you may live in places so far apart that both of you may find it infeasible to physically meet often enough unless you two are just already super into each other and ready to make the financial expense just to travel to each other often enough. Then there is general suspicion as to whether or not the person is a scammer or some dude in East Asia pretending to be a woman, a bot, gamification of the websites, ect.
Before getting into those statistics you mentioned which are just standard in normal IRL courtship and rating who is attractive, online dating throws in all these other issues that IRL interaction don't have. Like striking a conversation with the barista at Starbucks you think is cute. At least I know the girl at Starbucks is not some dude in the Philippines trying to harvest information to sell to data brokers or other Internet shenanigans. Not an Onlyfans hustler trying to get money from me pretending to work at Starbucks as a rouse. She's just a normal everyday person working at a coffee shop. None of this other nonsense to worry about. Say hello, one of us flirts and maybe give their number, blah blah and so forth. Much of us are just not gonna have that straight forward with online dating.
My conclusion: Honestly communities just need to start getting more invested in local dating / meet up events or something. Make more of an effort to strike conversation and get to know people that live in your community so you two can get friendly enough to hang out or something. Even if it does not end up in a romantic relationship, at least it results in more of us having a couple extra friends where we live.
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
Nico Yazawa from Love Live! is prob the only actual character cosplay I own atm, but idk what to do about the hair bc I've tried two wigs and neither fit my head lol idk if my heads just 3 big, I just had too much hair at the time, or maybe I just didn't pin it all down under the wig cap efficiently enough so I end up just doing skinny little pigtails with hairties atm
I want to do Konata Izumi from Lucky Star eventually though, as well as Kagome from InuYasha but I don't feel like doing them till I can figure out the wig dilemma because esp for Konata it's a really important part of her look.
princess_snow @princess_snow
princess_snow @princess_snow
What kind of crossplay do you do? I do a lot of crossplay too. (Probably most of my outfits.) I mostly do Hetalia, although my profile pic is Kurro from Haikyu.
princess_snow @princess_snow Well I have like 2 foot long hair and wear a lot of wigs, so you might just need a better wig cap. I normally tie my hair back and do 2-3 wig caps that fit well. I want to do a Koga outfit, need to try again cause the armor piece I tried to make came out super bad.
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
lol thanks man, believe it or not I grew it myself
Bram @bram
Bram @bram
Well you make a good point, cool hair by the way.
Hello! New here. Is this a dead site?
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
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Hello! New here. Is this a dead site?
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
Unfortunately every single dating site/app is statistically cursed from the get-go unless you are extremely above average looking and/or have extremely above average finances and this goes for both men and women (I believe the statistic is something like 80% of users are competing for the top 20% of the dating pool of the opposite gender) Obviously people get lucky, and how bad the odds are goes down the more active people there are on a given app but in general looking for positive results is a fools errand.
Your best bet is to cast as wide a net as possible (i.e. just use multiple apps/sites when you can) and put yourself out there. If you have a free minute, go participate in some random thread and you never know right? Otherwise just keep your expectations realistic and consider investing in some monk robes
Why are you single?
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
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Why are you single?
The 4th Ed-Boy @rokas15
Probably a combination of:
-Me simply not knowing how to meet new people irl, or when I do I have zero idea how to go beyond just small-talk and actually ask someone out without coming off as weird, or too strong, or misreading signals, or idek I have untreated ADHD which probably doesn't help this aspect lol
-the fact that I enjoy crossdressing/crossplay and am open and honest about this to most people and I'm fairly certain it is a big turn-off for many women.
-Choosing to save myself for marriage, and in turn expecting either the same from a significant other or at least a very low amount of previous partners and still being cool with a sexless relationship till marriage (I imagine this is the big one)
-I am very particular about who I consider dating because my end-goal is marriage, life-long companionship, and starting a family and I cannot imagine not putting a lot of thought into choices like this
At least I have the luxury of having my issues be mostly self-imposed I guess *shrugs*
