I disagree, but I've seen marriage fail horribly and ruin lives so many times. I see it more as a situation of "It's a retarded institution that only exists to fund the wedding and divorce industries". For me, it has nothing to do with commitment at all; as said, I would kill to have someone I love enough to make this logic-defying decision, but sadly I've never had any luck meeting girls with interests even remotely similar to mine until recently, so no girlfriends yet...
I think both sides have their points, and people seem to have different views about the idea.
Rather than thinking about which is the "right" view, if you have a partner, I think it is more important to consider what they consider marriage to be to them, and at the same time what marriage means to you. Basically I think that this is more of a subjective matter than an objective matter, and people shouldn't be forcing the idea of marriage onto you.
If one truly thinks marriage is "just a piece of paper" and unnecessary to their idea of how much they love you, then it probably is just a piece of paper, in which case it would be unhealthy towards the relationship to assume otherwise.
At the same time, if one does want to get married while the other person doesn't think it is "needed", there should be no reason why they can't either. So to me, it makes sense to go along with it even if you think it is "unneeded" if you truly love and want to be with that person.
If that insignificant "paper" can make the person you love happy, then... uh I guess why not? XD Although, you need to be careful about taking it as an "obligation", because marriage for obligationary reasons imo is missing the point and more like "forcing the idea" again.
Personally I am for the idea of getting married myself, and while I could think of some, it's not for any logical reason.
It's simply because I've watched too many movies or read too many stories. //SHOT
(Or ya know, simply conveying the idea that I want to be with them forever and romantic stuff and all that.. maybe become a dad and make dad jokes :D ... btw I like to think I'm a responsible person when I need to be)
For me, it would all depend on the kind of person. But I could see myself marrying someone if I felt that strongly about them.
Pretty much. I was actually going to say before Jun said it, I do respect Fox's view on the matter. I'm not so much trying to argue my point as express my differing view on it. Honestly, I think I would be willing to get married if I loved someone enough and it was important to them so long as they weren't like, forcing me into it. But not being married wouldn't hinder my intent or ability to make being with them a lifelong commitment.
Nah, you didn't. You're fine
Marriage didn't always consists of paperwork or contracts. Marriage is a sacred and religious step in life between two lovers as a sign they are committed to their love for each other and wish to get through life with each other cuz life does have problems that will test your feelings. There are failed marriages. It jist means they decided they or one side didn’t want to be in love anymore. It's not the "binded" situation. to me if I fall in love and we have been together for a long time and faced problems and fights with each other yet over came them as long as it is not something serious like cheating or a bad treatment to the other then taking the next step in life by marriage shows that we are both ready to truly commit to each other for life under God. that is my belief and viewpoint for me. What's right for me in my life.
marriage is nothing but a contract to declare yourself as a single entity to the government
the ceremony is a huge scam
but it *is* important because of the government perks and the contracts details that make it less likely you will cheat or leave
i refuse to be another divorce statistic, so ill only get married when im 100% sure i can live my life with that person
(how i want to be proposed to >w>)