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How much time should you wait before having sex with your partner?

konekohime
Quiet a few months cause it will screw everything up then your relationship will be more about the sex don't make my mistakes.
loli_vampire
Depends on the person. When you have sex doesn't really determine whether the relationship is about sex. That's an honesty issue and lots of people aren't honest. I have a high sex drive and like to have sex 1-3 times daily but that doesn't mean I'm looking for only sex. But if I have to go multiple days without sex all the time I get sexually frustrated and masturbation doesn't help much. I like a serious multifaceted relationship, I just happen to like one that includes lots of sex or else it feels more like a friendship than a relationship.
rainx
My rule of thumb is three months unless there is a legitimate medical reason. Either that or she is saving herself for marriage in which I probably wouldn't be dating her anyways. I don't have to sleep with someone on the first date, but being intimate is an important part of a healthy relationship, and if you're not comfortable with it after a few months, then I'm really going to start questioning the long term viability of the relationship.
tomaru
I actually wouldn't want want to have sex at all.
jikokun
At some of these replies to your question... https://imgflip.com/s/meme/Captain-Picard-Facepalm.jpg The logical answer is whenever you both feel comfortable enough to. Don't push the topic, let it come naturally. There is no "set time" to wait as each relationship is different.
hoodedfang
Until after marriage because I'm not wasting sex with someone beforehand if it's not going to work out.
chocopyro
Long as it takes for both to feel comfortable with the idea of it, and build enough trust between each other to know they won't be taken advantage of. I would advise against marriage though, given the statistics of sexual happiness in virgin marriages. But if thats how long you need, I'm not one to judge. As for me personally, I tend to take the slow approach myself.
yuusaku_godai
I say "let nature take its' course". This is just my opinion so my focus is to NOT offend others so please don't get your panties in a bunch. I think it's stupid to let something like religion or "tradition(s)" to dictate when it's okay to engage in sex. That's up to those consenting to it and not what other people think or believe. Sex and love are two separate things. Most people are taught, mainly by religion, that love and sex are the same and that it should only be between married hetero couples. That can't be further from the truth which can be observed in nature between other species as well as our own. There are animal groups that have sex with each other as a form of social lube and bonding. There are even a few that have sexual relations with those of the same biological gender in the animal kingdom. However when we love someone, that love can be shown physically through sexual contact. It shows how we want to be physically connected (literally) with those we have such a strong emotion for. Sex is mechanical, love is emotional. Those two together though is a beautiful thing if you're lucky enough to experience it. Sex's primary function is procreation of a species. However for us humans, it can be quite fun and something special with someone we love. At the end of the day, regardless of what we believe, based on your beliefs and how the other feels that's when you know to go for it. Someone I dated off here, we had sex on our first date. Things just really clicked well (literally). I do think bad of her to be "the type". Hell no.
gunvoltx
I'd say wait until marriage; but if you want to have sex before then, then go right ahead.
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