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When to confess your feelings?

jtibbs
If you're crushing on someone you just met, how long would you wait to tell them how you felt. Whats waiting too long, and whats waiting too short? Share your opinions.
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thenerdygirl234
NEVER i would NEVER ever confess first, i don't even have a crush why am i talking like this?...
jtibbs
@Mary, of course. Thats the obvious.
yaasshat
First, How long are we talking? I mean, infatuation is usually the first symptom of attraction and that can literaly start at first sight. (Aka, love at first sight. It ain't love, though.) Really, you'll know when it's right. If you have to ask, it's the right time to speak up. It's better to know than to wonder and at worst, you get rejected and maybe bruise your pride a little. There are WAY to many variables to give an exact answer as to how to handle it. Some don't mind the direct approach, some want long drawn out romance, others want a friendship while they try to see if that can grow into more. Seeing as this kind of question usually stems from a personal situation... Do you mind sharing, so as to give more info to work with? And remeber, take opinions with a grain of salt and don't get emotionally vested in them.
gunvoltx
Well, it's difficult to tell when. If you're going to tell someone how you feel, you need to find that sweet spot. Do it too soon (within a week or two) you'll risk being offputting and the person you like could feel uncomfortable. Do it too late and the person could end up being with someone else and you could miss your chance or they'll start to see you as just a friend. I'd say tell them that you're interested in them after at least a few months after getting to know them. You should really get to know them before asking them out since they might turn out to be different than what you first thought.
jtibbs
@Yaass Lol, I'm just asking for other peoples opinions. I'm aware of the variables. Just curious as to what other people feel like works.
yaasshat
Well, then I see no point to the question, unless it's ment to be like a PSA. To each their own I suppose. As for me, I met my wife on another dating site. Can't say we waited days weeks or months to let our intentions be known. We met, liked eachother's company, made/make each other feel secure/happy/laugh etc... But, our feelings, as it were, are still growing almost three years later(Though, I don't strictly see love as a feeling or an emotion, but that's an entirely different topic.). Romance and infatuation are great, but love is where the meat of it lies. Love is the part that will take time to develop and grow. Thus, if you want to see if a relationship is even possible, just go for it. Go for a coffee, talk a bit so you can learn about each other. Figure out if you truly want things to grow in a different direction in the first place. People say be friends first. Why can't you both be a friend AND try to see if romance is a possibility? As for the time frame? Again, way to many variables to throw out good opinions.
bob_loblaw
Mary, pls have my babies. I've known you for a while, so it's time.
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