Do you prefer being needed in a relationship?

Now I'm not talking about being with a needy/clingy person. Rather someone who makes it clear that on a level they depend on you either for safety, stability, mental security, physical security, etc. Or do you prefer someone who dances to the beat of their own drum? Who likes having you in their life but would also be fine without you. And I'm talking long-term. Not just the beginning stages.

I do want to feel needed. If the guy felt like he can be fine without me than that would cause serious doubt about him actually wanting me in his life. I don't want the "I will die without you" level, but "I love you and can't imagine you out of my life" level.

I'll be honest, I'd like a girl to be attached to me(she has be cute,nice and interesting though). It feels nice to not only feel needed but wanted.

Yes yes absolutely the more needed I feel the better I feel like the more they need you the less likely chance you'll be cheated on this is why I would love a yanderes as my ideal lady

I prefer to be useful and valued over being depended upon, but hey, codependence is a part of a relationship. If you have strengths, you lend those strengths to compensate for their weaknesses. If you have weaknesses, hopefully they can lend their strengths to compensate for those. And in areas where you're both weak, that's when you gotta put your heads together. Granted, I am a little too used to doing everything by myself and also for people who didn't ask for my help, so I'm the kinda guy who doesn't always realize when I should be asking for help. Least I could see past my pride and acknowledge I do need to ask though.

I believe that having a healthy level of dependence in a relationship can really enhance the experience. Knowing that you are an important part of someone's life make you feel needed and wanted which is especially important when it comes to long term since by then the passion and novelty of being with a person has died down. Relationships where people can compensate for each others weaknesses can create a strong and mutual bond. The only positive of being with someone who does their own thing would be in case of if the partner suddenly died. With a personality like that I think it would be easier for someone to bounce back after being faced with the death of a loved one.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but even in friendships (Still a kind of relationship), you both rely on each other in some form or another. We do like to "relate" in our ships, after all. For instance, my wife gives me emotional support on bad days and that gives me stability, which in turn helps me to go to work, make money, pay bills, eat, get gas for the car, save money for our child and support her and I do the same for her. Aka, it should be symbiotic.

Why would you be in a relationship if you were not needed in one way or another? Once you lose the need there is no more relationship. Just two ships passing in the night.

Yeah, I like to feel needed. Even little things like good night/good morning or random texts can make my day that much better.