Whats the BEST part of breaking up.

Freedom. Being able to grow as a person. Being able to reevaluate the situation. Realizing you are not your partners smack talk, Having the space and silence to confront and conquer your own thoughts and feelings without distractions. Darn skippy, of course there are benefits to the opposite to.

starting over and finding someone new and hopefully better

I guess I can see where you are coming from Vanessa, though many times these things can be a lot simpler without distractions.

Realizing that you deserve better. Also, seeing your past flaws and working to eliminate them. For instance, I used to have a TON of petty arguments , especially in my first relationship (Two way street, but I could've stopped them.). Now? I honestly can not recall one argument that I've had with my fiance (Almist 2yrs together)and that is very refreshing to me. Arguing happens, but it doesn't have to be over ever little thing. Another good thing is, I have complete trust in my fiancee. My ex? Ha! She made me question way more than it was worth. Of course, my ex did cheat on me, so that really simplified getting over her.XD It's just good to have hope for better things all around, but I know that's extremely hard for many, especially when they truly loved the other person. You'll get over the emotions, but you'll never forget the person.

Yeah Yaashat I agree, some things I have discovered from my last relationship was my tendency to get to comfortable, I began taking my relationship for granted, there was also the issue of what I call "uncommunicated contracts" basically me having certain expectations of my partner and not properly communicating them. Not saying it was all on me, my partner had a great deal of issues related to fear of abandonment and abusive behaviorsl but I try andd focus on me, and once the relationship was over I used it as a mirror to uncover my own faults and evaluate what I can do better in the future. So I am glad to say I was able to grow as a human being :)