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Would you date someone with a bad history/emotional background?

azure876
I would date them because I understand what they go through. Been through almost everything like bullying, depression, or abuse. I even have epilepsy. I'm not one to abandon someone because I've been abandoned too many times to know what it feels like and I don't want people to feel that because of me. If someone hurts me, I bottle it up. If someone hurts the people I care about, I shake that bottle up and unleash all that anger and pain on that one person. I'll take someone's shit, but you mess with my friends or the ones I love, you can bet that I'll be escorting them to Hell myself.
xxbleedinglovexx
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, the present is here. Live it, make it yours. I've dated people with mild to severe trauma and to be honest, if they treat me right and are making an effort to improve I'll help support them through it. If not, well it was nice knowing ya lol
animefan4life
I would date them and help them forget the past and look forward to the future. As the saying goes "If we live in the past we will never move forward, we must believe in hope for a better future."
animefan4life
I would date them and help them forget the past and look forward to the future. As the saying goes "If we live in the past we will never move forward, we must believe in hope for a better future."
milkycow
It depends on what the bad history is ( e.g. abusive, violent, etc ) But if it's nothing of that sort then I wouldn't mind dating them. As for the emotional background probably not. First and foremost, before even considering dating, I would try and help them out in any way possible with situations they may be going through. As someone on here stated before, How can you expect to "love" someone else when you don't even have self-respect/ love for yourself. It honestly just kind of spells disaster, even more so when one party is hesitant to share their true feelings/thoughts on certain matters. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I can't be myself or constantly have to watch what I say ( within reason of course ) due to the concern over getting my partner offended or upset. However, if that person shows signs of wanting to better themselves then I will reconsider. I've been in relationships where my partners were emotionally unstable and the main reason why they didn't work out was due to lack of communication from them and myself as well. There would be times where they would become upset on certain matters yet say "Oh...It's nothing" when asked what had offended/bothered them. You should not expect your partner to be a mind reader, this mentality often leads to matters being unsettled and in the worst case scenario, arguments due to misunderstandings. Likewise, there would be certain things my partners would do that I was not okay with yet hesitated on telling them what it was due to the fact that it would most likely end up in an argument. I have no right in telling my partner how they should live their life or what they should do but they should, at the very least, consider my concerns on certain matters if they would like to make the relationship work, especially if its something that causes uneasiness. However, from those relationships I have gained valuable experience and the knowledge to confront those situations. For those who are currently in a relationship with an emotionally unstable person or are the emotionally unstable one, please do not hesitate to share your true feelings/opinions/concerns with your partner. Don't expect your partner to be a mind reader, remember that communication really is key to maintaining a good relationship. If you're at the point where you feel hesitant on sharing a concern with your partner or vice-versa, then something is probably not right. You should never feel that way in a good relationship.
reinhardt76
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queenmemester
as long as it's not a one way street where it's just me constantly by their side while getting no support from them...but if it's a healthy relationship where we're both bringing ourselves up then yeh it's all gucci as rein says lol
animekid
After having dated someone with some of those problems/bad past issues etc. it would depend on a couple of things. Like what the problems are and how that might affect an "us" down the road.
nyaro
I would if they are a good person in reality :3
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